Choose whom you let into the lives of your children very carefully.
We thought we were doing a good deed (and we were) by agreeing to let a woman in transition (divorce) stay in our guest house.
Thirty uncleaned up dog messes in the backyard later...(not to mention cigarette butts in the plants, severely ripped screen from previously named dog, dirty dishes and missing items in the pantry. )
We're not those kind of folks you'd never like to visit because we're a stickler for keeping things immaculate. Trust me, we're not. But heh, there are limits right?
After the incessant barking and "Tristin, shut up - you're a buzz kill" shouts, you start to feel a little less hospitable.
My idea to completely clean out and organize the garage (exercise space and kiddies play area) took root and I went nutty with laying everything unwanted out on the driveway in anticipation of Salvation Army picking it up as they said they would. The time of pick up came and went and then the next day they arrived saying they could only take 1 thing as opposed to the odd 60+ things I had anticipated. So needless to say, I had to get rid of the junk. Since Salvation Army was Kelley's idea (and since she's been staying in our home rent free for 3 weeks) I thought she may consider going with me to pick up and drop off the van. I rented it for one evening. When it came time to take it back she said, "Can't we wait until tomorrow?" So I had to pay for an extra day. Fine. Come tomorrow she still really doesn't want to do it but agrees with a huff. On the way she scrapes the side of a parked car and and damages both the car and the van. She screams and yells (all manner of profanities) at me. I tell her basically to leave our home and don't come back, not one step back in.
What I feel most guilty about is having her around my kids. Luckily they're too young to ever remember anything but that sure is a lesson learned. Was I wrong in this situation?
Rob's mum is doing better. The infection is out of her lungs so they can operate. In England though you kind of have to wait your turn so she lost her place due to the infection and will now have to wait a couple more weeks.